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Breaking the Stigma: Choosing to Be a Single Mom

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It's Mother's Day today so I guess it would be perfect to share with you my motherhood journey and the valuable lessons I learned along the way. When I was 30 years old, I was single at that time, I prayed to God with all my heart to give me a child. And how could I bear a child if I didn't have a man? So, I included the father of my child in my prayers. Within just a week, my prayers were answered. I met the father of my child. I felt it was orchestrated by Divine plan because he too wanted a child. He even asked me if it's okay for me to get pregnant first before getting married. I didn't hesitate to say yes. 3 months after we met, I got pregnant. I felt mixed emotions but overall happy. Unfortunately, we didn't get so well so few weeks after I gave birth to my child, I broke up with him. I became a single mom. I'm sharing this to you because of the stigma of being a single mom. Like most would believed that being a single mom is pathetic, left by the fath...

Rising Strong from Failure: Three Valuable Lessons for Personal Growth

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Hey guys, how is life going on? One thing that inspires me to be back in blogging is because of  Dr. Wayne Dyer's quote, "Don't die with your music still in you." I actually have a choice to just be quiet and be busy with my life. However, what if someone can learn from my experience, what if someone can find inner peace or value with the kind of thoughts that I am sharing. Because that's what I needed when I was in my problems that I wished I might find someone who can guide me to the solution or just even to a better place. That's why I decided to update my blog and for this week I want to share with you my learnings about failures. Most of us have resistance about failures and negative limiting beliefs about ourselves when we experienced it. It hit me big time when I realized fully that life is full of ups and downs. The path of life is like the graph of the stock market full of ups and downs. I was living in an illusion when I wished problems will go away ...

Allow Others To Love You

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On my previous blog " Shame On Me ", I shared with you how I shut down emotionally. Well, we all know that emotional pain is more tormenting than physical pain. Emotional abuse is more terrible than physical abuse. I did that when I was a child because I did not want to get hurt anymore. But, when we numb ourselves from pain, we also numb ourselves from love. Therefore, I did not know how to love and to be affectionate. It was unknown to me and so no wonder no one can love me as much as I wanted to be loved. After my breakdown this year which I shared on " It's Okay Not To Be Okay ", it made me become aware of how low my self-worth is and how I hated myself for all these years. Therefore, I did not love myself in my deepest core. Yeah, sad truth. And so, I dedicated this year to love myself again unconditionally and completely 100%.  One more thing, based on what I have learned from Teal Swan's video which I posted on " Why We Broke Up? ",...

Why We Broke Up?

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Hi guys! It's been a while since I wrote something on this blog. After I had been okay with my depression or the dark night of the soul, I have been busy working out my life the way I wanted it to be. Now, I decided to share something which everybody can relate. This is all about relationship, parenting and marriage. I am going to share the truth behind why I broke up with my 7-year love relationship since a lot of my friends asked about it but I cannot tell them right then and then because it is a huge topic to talk about. It would be like I am a person speaking to them in a different language which they don't understand. So, I just told them we're not meant for each other. Period. Anyways, here it is. Just recently, I found the perfect video that gives an introduction of the correlation between the relationship we have with our parents and our love life. So, please watch the video first and then I will share my personal experience and perspective for this matter. ...